Life After Abuse, A Brighter Tomorrow

This blog is  for abused and battered individuals. I know all to well what it is like. I know how helpless you feel and how you feel when there is no where to turn. I have created this blog as a source of inspiration, information, healing or just a place to be among others that have gone through what we have. You are among friends here and no one is going to tell you what to do or make fun of you or put you down. Feel free to post what you like all I ask is that we remember what we are on here for and to keep it clean. If you want to vent but not on the blog you may also email me at PLEASE NOTE THAT WITH THE SHELTER LINKS MAKE SURE THAT YOU ARE ON A SAFE COMPUTER. ONE WHERE YOUR ABUSER CAN NOT GET TO IT. YOUR BROWSER HISTORY CAN’T ALL BE DELETED. SO HE/SHE MAY BE ABLE TO FIND OUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING. I WILL TRY TO FIND PHONE #’S FOR THE SHELTERS.
a brighter tomorrow



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33 thoughts on “Life After Abuse, A Brighter Tomorrow

  1. This is so touching…I can not really say i understand what it feels like to be abused…but i have seen, heard and felt the pains of abuse survivors…I live in South Africa where domestic abuse/violence is a big issue and my heart bleeds each day as news keep coming in of abuse perpetrated on helpless victims…I identify with you pain and I am with you on this fight to stop abuse/violence in our society and to offer support and encouragement to victims of abuse…

  2. I really enjoy your reading your article. You wrote a very good blog post on Life After Abuse, A Brighter Tomorrow | A place for inspiration, information, and just for abused individuals to talk. I also own a blog on free car check. Do let me know your comments, thank you!

  3. This experience made you the person you are today, I really admire your courage to be here on this blog and talk about this. Thank you for stopping by my blog, have a fantastic day! 🙂

    • Yes ma’am it has….although I HATE what I went through I AM glad that I am who I am today. You are very welcome….I am now a follower of your blog. May you have a great day as well….God bless! 🙂

  4. Thank you for posting that you cannot ever fully delete an internet search. And that the abuser can look to see what you are doing. Do you know I never thought of this?

  5. Thank you for the blog. My mother is a victim of abuse for over 10 years now. Being with my stepdad has torn my family apart and made my mother very sick. She’s taken up cigarettes and is on several anxiety meds to deal with this. She reads and gardens often to try to take some stress off, but it always comes back. On top of that he split their money so she’s struggling in our home to pay for her share working 50 hours a week. I’m in college and working a part time job trying to help her muster up the money for us to leave for good from him. Trying to get a game plan is extremely difficult since we’ve tried to move out before but got pushed back in with him due to financial reasons. It’s so hard to get her to try and leave again. It’s a very hard road for us so far. Thanks for the advice and inspiration, it means a lot.

    • I am so sorry to hear about your mother. And you for that matter. The cycle of abuse on your mother unfortunately gravitates down towards you. You are a good son doing what you can to help your mother through these trying times. I applaud you! I do not know your situation directly so I can not speak directly to the situation. But I do know that game plans are very hard. And it takes alot of strength to go through with them. The next time your mother leaves she should NOT GO BACK. I realize it is tempting because of finances. It was with me…but I stuck it out although it was extremely hard. But through all the trials it made me a stronger woman. And I did have help along the way with support groups and such. I will pray for strength and courage and safety for you and your mother. God bless. And thank you for the kind words .

  6. we do not know each other and i have not gone through the same experiences that you had but i cried while reading your story. i admire you and others who are like you. i cried feeling sad and angry about the abuse but felt relieved and happy at the end knowing that you are finally free from it. i am proud of what you have become. you chose to embrace your past and use it to become a better person. you are so brave! i wish you all the best! god bless!

    • Thank you so much Maria! I have tears in my eyes from reading your comment. I am free from the abuse….but I am not free from the after effects. I am working on those now. It is a long hard road. But I will overcome and I will have Brighter Tomorrows. 🙂

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  9. Dear Sandi, I’m not sure how I found you, I think through Patinspire. There are no coincidences though. I have experienced extreme psychological abuse from childhood and many relationships, probably sexual abuse as a toddler (repressed memories and later behavior patterns), and my daughter experienced sexual abuse at age 5-6 from her bio-father (my ex) and his 2nd wife (we were able to move out of state thanks to the wonderful court mediator and records I obtained, all on the fly at age 26). I know about battery and domestic violence, my grandmother experienced that and my mother’s emotional health suffered greatly, as has my whole (large) family. Although many are “past it” now…they’re not. I have a wonderful therapist helping me with the “after-effects.” So thank you, you not only provide a meeting place for people to speak out and heal, but so many resources, too. I’ve just started a poetry/post blog and a lot of my poems are about the spiritual path(s) I’ve taken, and the emotions I’ve experienced as I continue to heal from my past patterns. Before I got waylaid by multiple sclerosis (I call it multiple stress!) I used to be a healer myself and that’s what a lot of my poetry and books (in progress!) are about or for, that’s why I’m posting them. I’m in a very good place now, emotionally and spiritually, and my daughter at age 35 has blossomed and is beginning dating. So, thank you Sandi, Blessed Be!

    • You are very welcome! I am just now starting with the therapy and nothing has helped so far. But we shall see what happens. I am glad to hear that you and your daughter have found your Brighter Tomorrows.

  10. I am also a domestic violence survivor. Its been about 11 years now. I just wrote my first fiction book as my attempt to help people understand a little more about what abuse looks like in day to day settings. There has been such reaction to it that I decided to start a facebook page to say some more specific things about abuse. The way I see it is if just one or two people are saved from abuse by learning about what it looks and feels like, then maybe my pain will not be for nothing.

    Anyway, I was looking for a good blog to post links to that have information about abuse from a survivor and came across yours. Can you recommend some of your posts that seemed to be most helpful to people trying to learn more about abuse and what to do?

    Here is the link for the book I was talking about:

  11. Hi Sandi, I have continued to enjoy your blog since the first day I followed you and I have nominated your blog for the Creative bloggers award because I think your work here is great. Kindly accept my Congratulations…here is a link to the post

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