Tag Archive | Women

Kansas

kansas

 

 

 

  • Kansas Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence 820 SE Quincy, #416B Topeka KS 66612 (913)232-9784
  • Domestic Violence Emergency Services P.O. Box 262 Atchison KS 66002 Business #: 913-367-0365 Hotline/Crisis: 913-367-0363
  • Crisis Center of Dodge City, Inc. P.O. Box 1173 Dodge City KS 67801 Business #: 316-225-6987 Hotline/Crisis: 316-225-6510
  • The Family Life Center – SAFEHOUSE P.O. Box 735 El Dorado KS 67042 Business #: 316-321-7104 Hotline/Crisis: 316-321-7104 Toll Free #: (800)870-6967
  • S.O.S., Inc. P.O. Box 1191 Emporia KS 66801 Business #: 316-342-1870 Hotline/Crisis: 316-342-1870 Toll Free #: (800)825-1295
  • Family Crisis Service’s P.O. Box 1092 Garden City KS 67846 Business #: 316-275-2018 Hotline/Crisis: 316-275-5911
  • Family Crisis Center P.O. Box 1543 Great Bend KS 67530 Business #: 316-792-3672 Hotline/Crisis: 316-792-1885
  • Northwest Kansas Family Shelter, Inc. P.O. Box 284 Hays KS 67601 Business #: 913-625-4202 Hotline/Crisis: 913-625-3055
  • Kickapoo Emergency Shelter P.O. Box 271 Horton KS 66439 Business #: 913-486-3591 Hotline/Crisis: 91-486-3591
  • Sexual Assault/Domestic Violence Center 1 East 9th Hutchinson KS 67501 Business #: 316-665-3630 Hotline/Crisis: 316-663-2522
  • Hope Unlimited P.O. Box 12 Ida KS 66740 Business #: 316-365-7566 Hotline/Crisis: 316-365-3144
  • Rebecca Vinson Center P.O. Box 1514 Kansas City KS 66117 Business #: 913-321-1566 Hotline/Crisis: 913-321-0951
  • Douglas County Rape Victims Support Service 1419 Massachusetts St. Lawrence KS 66044 Business #: 913-843-8985 Hotline/Crisis: 913-841-2345
  • Women’s Transitional Care Service P.O. Box 633 Lawrence KS 66044 Business #: 913-841-6887 Hotline/Crisis: 913-841-6887
  • Alliance Against Family Violence P.O. Box 465 Leavenworth KS 66048 Business #: 913-682-1752 Hotline/Crisis: 913-682-9131
  • Liberal Area Rape & Domestic Violence Services P.O. Box 1707 Liberal KS 78901 Hotline/Crisis: 316-624-8818
  • The Crisis Center, Inc. P.O. Box 1526 Manhattan KS 66502 Business #: 913-539-2785 Hotline/Crisis: 913-539-2785 Toll Free #: (913)762-2333
  • Mcpherson County Council on Violence Against Persons P.O. Box 406 McPherson KS 67460 Business #: 316-241-3510 Hotline/Crisis: 316-241-6615
  • Multi-County Domestic Violence Program, Inc. Rt. 1 Box 199 Morrill KS 66515 Business #: 913-459-2859
  • Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault Assoc. Box 942 Newton KS 67114 Business #: 316-284-6920 Toll Free #: (800)487-0510
  • SAFEHOME,Inc. P.O. Box 4469 Overland Park KS 66204 Business #: 913-432-9300 Hotline/Crisis: 913-262-2869
  • SAFEHOUSE, Inc. 101 E. Fourth, Suite 214 Pittsburg KS 66762 Business #: 316-231-8251 Hotline/Crisis: 316-231-8692 Toll Free #: (800)333-2292
  • Domestic Violence Assoc. of Central Kansas P.O. Box 1854 Salina KS 67402 Business #: 785-827-5862 Hotline/Crisis: 785-827-5862 Toll Free #: (800) 874-1499
  • Scott County Police Dept. 301 Court Scott City KS 67871 Hotline/Crisis: 316-872-2133
  • Battered Women Task Force P.O. Box 1883 Topeka KS 66601 Business #: 913-354-7927 Hotline/Crisis: 913-233-1730
  • Wichita Area Sexual Assault Center 215 N. St. Francis, Suite 1 Wichita KS 67202 Business #: 316-263-0185 Hotline/Crisis: 316-263-3002
  • YWCA Women’s Crisis Center/Safehouse P.O. Box 1740 Wichita KS 67201 Business #: 316-263-2313 Hotline/Crisis: 316-267-SAFE
  • Cowley County Safe Homes, Inc. P.O. Box 181 Winfield KS 67156 Business #: 316-221-7300 Hotline/Crisis: 316-221-4357 Toll Free #: 316-333-1816

Iowa

iowa

 

  • Iowa Coalition Against Domestic Violence Lucas Bldg. First Floor Des Moines IA 50319 (515)281-7284
  • Domestic Abuse Services of Dallas County, Inc. P.O. Box 192 Adel IA 50003 Business #: 515-993-4095 Hotline/Crisis: (800)400-4884 Toll Free #: (800)400-4884 MLS Varies BYF R
  • Assault Care Center Extending Shelter and Support P.O. Box 1965 Ames IA 50010 Business #: 515-232-5418 Hotline/Crisis: 515-232-2303 Toll Free #: (800)203-3488 MLS Varies BYF N
  • Family Crisis Support Network P.O. Box 11 Atlantic IA 50022 Business #: 712-243-6615 Hotline/Crisis: 712-243-5123 Toll Free #: (800)696-5123 MLS Varies BYF Y
  • YWCA Shelter & Sexual Assault Center 2410 Mt. Pleasant Burlington IA 52601 Business #: 319-752-0606 Hotline/Crisis: 319-752-4475 MLS 21 days BYF R
  • Domestic Abuse Prevention Center, Inc. P.O. Box 451 Carroll IA 51401 Business #: 712-792-6722 Toll Free #: (800)383-9744 MLS 7 days BYF R
  • YWCA Domestic Violence Program & Shelter 318 5th Street, S. E. Cedar Rapids IA 52401 Business #: 319-364-1458 Hotline/Crisis: 319-363-2093 MLS 3 months BYF R
  • Council Against Domestic Abuse P.O. Box 963 Cherokee IA 51012 Business #: 712-225-5003 Hotline/Crisis: (800)225-5003 Toll Free #: (800)225-7233 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Waubonsic Mental Health Center Box 457 Clarinda IA 51632 Business #: 712-542-2388 Hotline/Crisis: 712-542-2388 Toll Free #: (800)432-1143 BYF Y
  • Gateway YWCA: Women’s Resource Center 317 7th Avenue South Clinton IA 52732 Business #: 319-242-2118 Hotline/Crisis: 319-243-7867 MLS 30 days BYF N
  • Catholic Social Service/Domestic Violence Program 315 West Pierce St. Council Bluffs IA 51503 Business #: 712-328-3086 Hotline/Crisis: 712-328-0266 MLS 3 weeks BYF Y
  • S.W. Iowa Family Violence Center P.O. Box 451 Creston IA 50801 Business #: 515-782-6632 Hotline/Crisis: (800)842-0333
  • Domestic Violence Advocacy Program 115 West 6th Street Davenport IA 52803 Business #: 319-323-1852 Hotline/Crisis: 319-326-9191 Toll Free #: (309)797-1777 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Services for Abused Women and Their Children P.O. Box 372 Decorah IA 52101 Business #: 319-382-2989 Toll Free #: (800)383-2988 MLS 3 days BYF Y
  • Family Violence Center 1111 University Avenue Des Moines IA 50314 Business #: 515-243-6147 Hotline/Crisis: 515-243-6147 MLS Varies BYF R
  • YWCA Battered Women Program 35 North Booth Street Dubuque IA 52001 Business #: 319-556-3371 Hotline/Crisis: 319-588-4016 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Mid-Iowa Stepping Stones Box 122 Eldora IA 50627 Business #: 515-858-2618 Hotline/Crisis: 515-858-2618 MLS 7 days BYF Y
  • Domestic/Sexual Assault Outreach Center P.O. 173 Fort Dodge IA 50501 Business #: 515-955-2273 Hotline/Crisis: 515-573-8000 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Domestic Violence Intervention Program P.O. Box 3170 Iowa City IA 52244 Business #: 319-354-7840 Hotline/Crisis: 319-351-1043 Toll Free #: (800)373-1043 MLS 4 months BYF R
  • Greene County Domestic Abuse Council P.O. Box 422 Jefferson IA 50129 Business #: 515-386-4056 Hotline/Crisis: 386-4056 BYF R
  • Tri-State Coalition Against Family Violence P.O. Box 494 Keokuk IA 52632 Business #: 319-524-4445 Hotline/Crisis: 515-524-4445 MLS 21 days BYF Y
  • Stepping Stones Domestic Abuse Program P.O. Box 76 Malvern IA 51551 Toll Free #: (800)468-7333 MLS 30 days BYF Y
  • Domestic Violence Alternatives/Sexual Assault Ctr. P.O. Box 1507 Marshalltown IA 50158 Business #: 515-752-3245 Hotline/Crisis: 515-753-3513 Toll Free #: (800)779-3512 MLS Varies BYF N
  • Crisis Intervention Service P.O. Box 656 Mason City IA 50402 Business #: 515-424-9071 Hotline/Crisis: 515-424-9133 MLS 45 days BYF R
  • Domestic Abuse/Sexual Assault Advocacy Programs 119 Sycamore St., Suite 200 Muscatine IA 52761 Business #: 319-263-8080 Hotline/Crisis: 319-263-8080 MLS 1 month
  • Crisis Center and Womens Shelter P.O. Box 446 Ottumwa IA 52501 Business #: 515-683-3122 Hotline/Crisis: 515-683-3122 Toll Free #: (800)464-8340 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Turning Point P.O. Box 302 Pella IA 50219 Business #: 515-628-4901 Toll Free #: (800)433-7233 BYF R
  • Domestic Violence Aid Center, Inc. 32 Third Street N. E. Sioux Center IA 51250 Business #; 712-722-4404 Hotline/Crisis: 712-737-3307 Toll Free #: (800)382-5603 MLS 3 days BYF Y
  • Council on Sexual Assault & Domestic Violence P.O. Box 1565 Sioux City IA 51102 Business #: 712-277-0131 Hotline/Crisis: 712-258-7233 Toll Free #: (800)982-7233 MLS 30 days
  • Council for the Prevention of Domestic Violence P.O. Box 462 Spirit Lake IA 51360 Business #: 712-336-0701 Hotline/Crisis: 712-336-0701 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Crisis Services 3830 W. 9th St. Waterloo IA 50702 Business #: 319-233-8484 Hotline/Crisis: 319-233-8484 MLS 30+ days BYF R
  • Cedar Valley Friends of the Family P.O. Box 148 Waverly IA 50677 Business #: 319-352-1108 Hotline/Crisis: 319-352-0037 Toll Free #: (800)410-SAFE MLS 3 days

The Healing Process

healing

I will go through and type in purple my experience and thoughts about some of what is said here:

 

 

 

 

 Victims of Abuse

Domestic Violence: Healing the Wounds
Millions of people are in abusive relationships, or directly affected by one. After living in an abusive relationship, problems don’t end when victims escape the nightmare. The abuser’s psychological and physical attacks leave deep wounds that are difficult to heal unless carefully attended to in the aftermath of such trauma.

There is hope for survivors of domestic violence. Although difficult and painful, recovery from abuse is possible. The healing process starts with recognizing how domestic violence impacts its survivors.

The impact of abuse on survivors
Survivors of domestic violence recount stories of put-downs, public humiliation, name-calling, mind games and manipulations by the abuser. Psychological scars left by emotional and verbal abuse are often more difficult to recover from than physical injuries. They often have lasting effects even after the relationship has ended. The survivor’s self-esteem is trampled in the course of being told repeatedly that she is worthless, stupid, untrustworthy, ugly or despised. (Mine has lasted 7 years. The name calling and the put-downs are very hard to get over. I am not ashamed to say that I felt (and still to some extent)lower than dirt.)

It is common for an abuser to be extremely jealous and controlling, and insist that the victim not see friends or family members. The victim may be forbidden to work or leave the house without the abuser. If the victim is employed, she often loses her job due to the chaos created by such relationships. (Mine was VERY jealous! I could not have friends and he made sure that my family wanted to have nothing to do with me. I can’t tell you how many jobs I lost because of him. Always calling, or stalking, or sending other people to check up on me.)

This isolation increases the abuser’s control over the victim and results in the victim losing any emotional, social or financial support from the outside world. This increases the victim’s dependence upon the abuser, making it more difficult to leave the relationship. If she does leave, she often finds herself totally alone and unable to support herself and her children. (ANY little chance I got, no matter how much it was, even it was just change, I put it away. In the end it was just enough for gas to get me to where I needed to be and that was it.)

A traumatic experience
Domestic violence is a traumatic experience for its victims. Traumatic experiences produce emotional shock and other psychological problems. The American Psychiatric Association has identified a specific type of mental distress common to survivors of trauma called post traumatic stress disorder or PTSD. Common reactions to trauma include:

  • Fear and anxiety — While normal responses to dangerous situations, fear and anxiety can become a permanent emotional state without professional help. Memories of the trauma can trigger intense anxiety and immobilize the survivor. Children may express their fears by becoming hyperactive, aggressive, develop phobias or revert to infantile behavior.
  • Nightmares and flashbacks — Because the trauma is so shocking and different from normal everyday experiences, the mind cannot rid itself of unwanted and intrusive thoughts and images. Nightmares are especially common in children.
  • Being in “danger mode” — Jitteriness, being easily startled or distracted, concentration problems, impatience and irritability are all common to being in a “heightened state of alert” and are part of one’s survival instinct. Children’s reactions tend to be expressed physically because they are less able to verbalize their feelings.
  • Guilt, shame and blame — Survivors often blame themselves for allowing the abuse to occur and continue for as long as it did. Survivors feel guilty for allowing their children to be victimized. Sometimes others blame the survivors for allowing themselves to be victims. These emotions increase the survivor’s negative self-image and distrustful view of the world.
  • Grief and depression — Feelings of loss, sadness and hopelessness are signs of depression. Crying spells, social withdrawal and suicidal thoughts are common when grieving over the loss and disappointment of a disastrous relationship.

I have PTSD and have all the above except for the suicidal thoughts. I have children and don’t want to die. I want to live for them.

Recovery
To recover from domestic violence, the survivor must:

  • Stop blaming herself for what has happened — take responsibility for present and future choices.
  • Stop isolating herself — reconnect with people in order to build a support network.
  • Stop denying and minimizing feelings— she should learn how to understand and express herself with the help of a therapist. I am working on this one right now….it is not easy either.
  • Stop identifying herself as a victim take control of her life by joining a survivors’ support group.
  • Stop the cycle of abuse — get herself and her children counseling to help heal psychological wounds and to learn healthy ways to function in the world.

Recovery from domestic violence is a step-by-step process; a journey no one should take alone. The first step toward becoming a survivor is taken when victims call for help. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is (800) 799-SAFE. ( I did it alone for years! I was abused most of my life. But just recently decided I can not deal with this on my own anymore. I am not good at expressing myself and my therapist is finding this out. But she is patient and is helping me to learn to express my feelings without fear of some sort of retaliation.)

Indiana (Part 1)

Indiana

I will work on getting the actual addresses and phone numbers from these links for a part 2

 

 

 Adams Wells Crisis Center (Decatur)  http://awcc.embarqspace.com

 The Beaman Home (Warsaw)  www.thebeamanhome.org

 *The Caring Place (Valparaiso)  www.thecaringplacenwi.org

 iFiT, A program of Family Services of Elkhart county, Inc. (Elkhart) – www.ifitelkhart.org

 *  Haven House, Inc (Hammond) – 219-931-2090

 Heminger House, Plymouth – 574-936-7233

 *  North Central Indiana Rural Crisis Center, Inc (Rensselaer) – 219-866-8825

 Rainbow Shelter, Gary Commission for Women (Gary) – 219-886-1600

 *  St. Jude House (Crown Point)  www.stjudehouse.org

 *  The Stepping Stone Shelter for Women (Michigan City) – 219-879-4615

 YWCA of Northeast Indiana – Domestic Violence Services (Ft.Wayne)http://www.ywca.org

YWCA of North Central Indiana (South Bend)  www.ywcasjc.org

 CENTRAL REGION RESIDENTIAL

 A Better Way Services, Inc. (Muncie)  www.abetterwaymuncie.org

Alternatives, Inc. (Anderson)  www.alternativesdv.org

 Desert Rose (Martinsville)  www.desertrose.cc

 Family Crisis Shelter,Inc.(Crawfordsville)  www.familycrisisshelter.org

 The Family Service Assn. of Howard County, Inc. (Kokomo)
www.fsahc.org

 Hands of Hope (Marion) – 800-434-8973

 The Julian Center (Indianapolis)  www.juliancenter.org

 Salvation Army (Indianapolis)  www.indysocialservices.org 

 Sheltering Wings Center For Women(Danville)  www.shelteringwings.org

 WINGS(Quest for Excellence)(Indianapolis) www.q4e.org/

 YWCA Domestic Violence Intervention and Prevention Program (Lafayette)
888-345-1118 (toll-free)    or   765-423-1118 (local)

 SOUTH REGION RESIDENTIAL

*Albion Fellows Bacon Center,Inc.(Evansville)  www.albionfellowsbacon.org

 The Center for Women and Families  (Sellersburg)  www.thecenteronline.org

 Council On Domestic Abuse (CODA) (Terre Haute)  www.codaterrehaute.org

 Hoosier Hills PACT (Salem) – 888-883-1959

 Middle Way House, Inc. (Bloomington)  www.middlewayhouse.org

 New Directions of Decatur County (Greensburg) – 812-662-8822

 Safe Passage, Inc. (Batesville)  www.safepassageinc.org  

 Turning Point-Columbus Regional Shelter For Victims Of Domestic Violence (Columbus)www.turningpointdv.org

 *YWCA Domestic Violence Shelter (Evansville)  www.ywcaevansville.org 

 

Illinois

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The State of Illinois Domestic Violence Help Line:

  • 1 (877) TO END DV
  • 1 (877) 863-6338

ADDISON

Hamdard Center for Health & Human Services
Addison, lL 60101
Hotline: (630) 860-9122
Toll Free Hotline: (866) 305-3933
E-Mail: admin@hamdardcenter.org
Web Site: hamdardcenter.org

ALEDO

Mercer County Family Crisis Center
Aledo, lL 61231
Hotline: (309) 582-7233

ALTON

Oasis Women’s Center
Alton, IL 62002
Hotline: (618) 465-1978
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 244-1978
E-Mail: oasiswc@cbnstl.com

AURORA

Mutual Ground, Inc.
Aurora, lL 60506
Hotline: (630) 897-0080
E-Mail: mutualground@ameritech.net
Web Site: mutualgroundinc.com

BELLEVILLE

Violence Prevention Center of Southwestern Illinois
Belleville, IL 62222-0831
Hotline: (618) 235-0892
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 924-0096
E-Mail: information@vpcswi.org
Web Site: vpcswi.org

BLOOMINGTON

Mid Central Community Action, Inc.
Bloomington, IL 61701
Hotline: (309) 827-7070
Web Site: mccainc.org

CAIRO

Cairo Women’s Shelter, Inc.
Cairo, IL 62914
Hotline: (61 8) 734-4357
E-Mail: cwsi@midwest.net

CANTON

Fulton-Mason Crisis Service
Canton, IL 61520
Hotline: (309) 647-8311
E-Mail: madedfmcs@yahoo.com

CARBONDALE

The Women’s Center, Inc.
Carbondale, IL 62901
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 334-2094
Web Site: thewomensctr.org

CENTRALIA

People Against Violent Environments (PAVE)
Centralia, IL 62801
Hotline: (61 8) 533-7233
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 924-8444
TTY Hotline: (61 8) 533-9003
E-Mail: pave@charter.net

CHARLESTON

HOPE of East Central Illinois (Charleston)
Charleston, IL 61920
Toll Free Hotline: (888) 345-3990
Web Site: hope-eci.org

CHICAGO

Apna Ghar (Our Home), Inc.
Chicago, IL 60640
Hotline: (773) 334-4663
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 717-0757
E-Mail: info@apnaghar.org
Web Site: apnaghar.org

Between Friends
Chicago. IL 60645
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 603-4357
Web Site: http://www.betweenfriendschicago.org/

Chicago Abused Women Coalition
Chicago, IL 60651
Hotline: (773) 278-4566
TTY Hotline: (773) 278-4114
E-Mail: cawcadmin@mindspring.com
Web Site: cawc.org

Domestic Violence Legal Clinic
Chicago, IL 60607

Family Rescue, Inc.
Chicago, IL 60617
Hotline: (773) 375-8400
E-Mail: administration@familyrescueinc.org
Web Site: familyrescueinc.org

Healthcare Alternative Systems, Inc.
Chicago, IL 60647
Hotline: (773) 745-7107
Web Site: hascares.org

Howard Area Community Center
Chicago, IL 60626
Web Site: howardarea.org

Howard Brown Health Center
Chicago, IL 60613
Web Site: howardbrown.org

Jane Addams Hull House Association
Chicago. IL 60607
TTY Hotline: (773) 561-6119
Web Site: hullhouse.org

Legal Assistance Foundation of Metropolitan Chicago
Chicago, IL 60604
Hotline: (800) 824-4050
Web Site: lafchicago.org

Lester and Rosalie Anixter Center
Chicago. IL 60626-062
TTY Hotline: (773) 248-9174
E-Mail: askchs@anixter.org
Web Site: anixter.org

Metropolitan Family Services
Chicago, IL 60602
Web Site: metrofamily.org

Mujeres Latinas en Accion
Chicago, IL 60608
Hotline: (312) 738-5358
TTY Hotline: (312) 226-3350
E-Mail: mujeresmail@mujereslat.org
Web Site: mujereslatinasenaccion.org

Neopolitan Lighthouse
Chicago, IL 606240709
Hotline: (773) 722-0005
E-Mail: neopolitan@ameritech.net
Web Site: neopolitanlighthouse.org

New Hope Community Service Center
Chicago, IL 60652
Web Site: nhcsc.org

Polish American Association
Chicago, IL 60641
E-Mail: paa@polish.org
Web Site: polish.org

Rainbow House
Chicago, IL 60604
Hotline: (773) 762-6611
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 913-0065
TTY Hotline: (773) 762-6802
E-Mail: email@rainbow-house.org
Web Site: rainbow-house.org

Wellspring Center for Hope
Chicago, IL 60181
Web Site: wellspringcenterforhope.org

YWCA of Metropolitan Chicago
Chicago, IL 60601
Toll Free Hotline: (888) 293-2080
Web Site: ywcachicago.org

DANVILLE

Your Family Resource Connection (YFRC)
Danville, IL 61832-4723
Hotline: (217) 443-5566
E-Mail: admin.yfrc@insightbb.com
Web Site: none

DECATUR

Dove, Inc.
Decatur, IL 62521
Hotline: (217) 423-2238
Web Site: doveinc.org

DEKALB

Safe Passage, Inc.
DeKalb, IL 60115
Hotline: (815) 756-5228
E-Mail: dekalb@safepassagedv.org

DES PLAINES

Life Span
Des Plaines, IL 60017
Hotline: (847) 824-4454
TTY Hotline: (847) 824-01 89
E-Mail: life-span@life-span.org
Web Site: life-span.org

ELGIN

Community Crisis Center
Elgin, IL 60120
E-Mail: cccpeace@crisiscenter.org
Web Site: crisiscenter.org

EVANSTON

YWCA Evanston/North Shore
Evanston, lL 60201
Hotline: (847) 864-8780
Toll Free Hotline: (877) 718-1868

FREEPORT

VOICES Domestic Violence Program
Freeport, lL 61032
Hotline: (815) 235-1641
Toll Free Hotline: (877) 994-7233
E-Mail: voices@voicesdv.org

GALENA

Riverview Center
Galena, IL 61036
Hotline: (815) 777-3680 Jo Davies County
Hotline:  (815) 244-1320 Carroll County
E-Mail: carrie@riverviewcenter.org
Web Site: www.riverviewcenter.org

GALESBURG

Safe Harbor Family Crisis Center
Galesburg, IL 61401
Hotline: (309) 343-7233
E-Mail: safeharb@galesburg.net

GRANITE CITY

Phoenix Crisis Center
Granite City, IL 62040
Hotline: (618) 451-1008
Toll Free Hotline: (866) 576-6649

HARRISBURG

Anna Bixby Women’s Center
Harrisburg, IL 62946
Hotline: (618) 252-8389
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 421 -8456
TTY Hotline: (618) 252-8389
E-Mail: abixby@accessus.net

HOMEWOOD

South Suburban Family Shelter, Inc.
Homewood, IL 60430-0937
Hotline: (708) 335-3028
Toll Free Hotline: (877) 335-3020
E-Mail: info@ssfsi.org
Web Site: http://www.ssfsi.org

JACKSONVILLE

Crisis Center Foundation
Jacksonville, IL 62650
Hotline: (217) 243-4357
Toll Free Hotline: (877) 243-5357

JOLIET

Guardian Angel Community Services
Joliet, IL 60435
Hotline: (815) 729-1228
Web Site: guardianangelhome.org

KANKAKEE

Kankakee County Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Kankakee, lL 60901-1824
Hotline: (815) 932-5800
E-Mail: harbor@harborhousedv.org

LA GRANGE PARK

The Pillars Community Services
La Grange Park, IL 60526

Hotline: (708) 698-5500 ext 203
TTY Hotline: (708) 698-5090
E-Mail: cmh@pillarscommunity.org
Web Site: pillarscommunity.org

MACOMB

Western Illinois Regional Council–Community Action Agency
Macomb, IL 61455
Hotline: (309) 837-5555
E-Mail: victimservices@wirpc.org
Web Site: wirpc.org

MOLINE

Family Resources, Inc.
Moline, IL 61265
Hotline: (309) 797-1777
TTY Hotline: (309) 793-1443

MT. CARROLL

Riverview Center
Galena, IL 61036
Hotline: (815) 777-3680 Jo Davies County
Hotline:  (815) 244-1320 Carroll County
E-Mail: carrie@riverviewcenter.org
Web Site: www.riverviewcenter.org

OAK PARK

Sarah’s Inn
Oak Park, IL 60304
Hotline: (708) 286-4225
TTY Hotline: (708) 386-3687
E-Mail: sarahsinn@sarahsinn.org
Web Site: sarahsinn.org

OLNEY

Stopping Women Abuse Now (SWAN)
Olney, lL 62450
Hotline: (618) 392-3556
Toll Free Hotline: (888) 715-6260
E-Mail: swanservices@otbnet.com
Web Site: swanservices.org

PEORIA

The Center for Prevention of Abuse
Peoria, lL 61614
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 559-7233
Web Site: centerforpreventionofabuse.org

PRINCETON

Freedom House
Princeton, IL 61356
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 474-6031

QUINCY

Quanada
Quincy, IL 62301
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 369-2287
E-Mail: info@quanada.org
Web Site: quanada.org

ROCHELLE

H.O.P.E. of Rochelle
Rochelle, IL 61068
Hotline: (815) 562-8890
E-Mail: hopeOmail@aol.com

ROCKFORD

PHASE, Inc. (PHASEWAVE)
Rockford, IL 61102
Hotline: (815) 962-6102
Web Site: phasewave.net

SPRINGFIELD

Sojourn Shelter & Services, Inc.
Springfield, IL 62704
Hotline: (866) 435-7438
E-Mail: sojcenter@aol.com
Web Site: sojournshelter.org

STERLING

YWCA of the Sauk Valley
Sterling, IL 61081-3603
Hotline: (815) 626-7277

STREATOR

ADV & SAS
Streator, IL 61364
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 892-3375
E-Mail: advsas@crtelco.com

TINLEY PARK

Crisis Center for South Suburbia
Tinley Park, IL 60477
Hotline: (708) 429-7233
TTY Hotline: (708) 429-7284
Web Site: crisisctr.org

TUSCOLA

BETH’S Place
Tuscola, IL 61953
Hotline: (217) 253-2555
Toll Free Hotline: (877) 394-8284
E-Mail: beths_place_1999@yahoo.com

URBANA

The Center for Women in Transition (A Woman’s Place)
Urbana, IL 61802
Hotline: (217) 384-4390
Toll Free Hotline:  (888) 384-4390
E-Mail: shelter@cwt-cu.org
Web Site: www.cwt-cu.org

WHEATON

Family Shelter Service
Wheaton, IL 60187
Hotline: (630) 469-5650
TTY Hotline: (630) 221-8058
E-Mail: mail@familyshelterservice.net
Web Site: familyshelterservice.org

WOODSTOCK

Turning Point, Inc.
Woodstock, IL 60098
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 892-8900
E-Mail: tpofficemanager@yahoo.com
Web Site: mchenrycountyturningpoint.org

ZION

A Safe PlacelLake County Crisis Center
Zion, IL 60099
Hotline: (800) 6007233
E-Mail: info@asafeplaceforhelp.org
Web Site: asafeplaceforhelp.org

Warning Signs

Jealousy

Jealousy (Photo credit: williamshannon)

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WARNING SIGNS

Many of the signs women are taught to Interpret as caring, attentive, and romantic are actually early warning signs for future abuse. Some examples Include:

INTRUSION: Constantly asks you where you are going, who you are with, etc.

ISOLATION:  Insists that you spend all or most of your time together, cutting you off from friends and family.

POSSESSION AND JEALOUSY:  Accuses you of flirting/having sexual relationships with others; monitors your clothing/make-up.

NEED FOR CONTROL:  Displays extreme anger when things do not go his way; attempts to make all of your decisions.

UNKNOWN PASTS / NO RESPECT FOR WOMEN:  Secretive about past relationships; refers to women with negative remarks, etc.

MORE WARNING SIGNS

1. Was or is abused by a parent.
2. Grew up in a home where an adult was abused by another adult.
3. Gets very serious with boyfriends/girlfriends very quickly – saying “I love you” very early in the relationship, wanting to move in together or get engaged after only a few months, or pressuring partner for a serious commitment.
4. Comes on very strong, is extremely charming and an overly smooth talker.
5. Is extremely jealous.
6. Isolates partner from support systems – wants partner all to themselves, and tries to keep partner from friends, family or outside activities.
7. Attempts to control what partner wears, what she/he does or who she/he sees.
8. Is abusive toward other people, especially mother or sisters if he is a male.
9. Blames others for one’s own misbehavior or failures.
10. Has unrealistic expectations, like expecting partner to meet all of ones needs and be the perfect partner.
11. Is overly sensitive – acts ‘hurt’ when not getting one’s way, takes offense when others disagree with an opinion, gets very upset at small inconveniences that are just a normal part of life. 
12. Has ever been cruel to animals.
13. Has ever abused children.
14. Has ever hit a boyfriend or girlfriend in the past.
15. Has ever threatened violence, even if it wasn’t a serious threat.
16. Calls partner names, puts him/her down or curses at him/her.
17. Is extremely moody, and switches quickly from being very nice to exploding in anger.
18. If a male, believes women are inferior to men and should obey them.
19. Is intimidating, for example using threatening body language, punching walls or breaking objects.
20. Holds partner against his/her will to keep him/her from walking away or leaving the room.