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  • Kansas Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence 820 SE Quincy, #416B Topeka KS 66612 (913)232-9784
  • Domestic Violence Emergency Services P.O. Box 262 Atchison KS 66002 Business #: 913-367-0365 Hotline/Crisis: 913-367-0363
  • Crisis Center of Dodge City, Inc. P.O. Box 1173 Dodge City KS 67801 Business #: 316-225-6987 Hotline/Crisis: 316-225-6510
  • The Family Life Center – SAFEHOUSE P.O. Box 735 El Dorado KS 67042 Business #: 316-321-7104 Hotline/Crisis: 316-321-7104 Toll Free #: (800)870-6967
  • S.O.S., Inc. P.O. Box 1191 Emporia KS 66801 Business #: 316-342-1870 Hotline/Crisis: 316-342-1870 Toll Free #: (800)825-1295
  • Family Crisis Service’s P.O. Box 1092 Garden City KS 67846 Business #: 316-275-2018 Hotline/Crisis: 316-275-5911
  • Family Crisis Center P.O. Box 1543 Great Bend KS 67530 Business #: 316-792-3672 Hotline/Crisis: 316-792-1885
  • Northwest Kansas Family Shelter, Inc. P.O. Box 284 Hays KS 67601 Business #: 913-625-4202 Hotline/Crisis: 913-625-3055
  • Kickapoo Emergency Shelter P.O. Box 271 Horton KS 66439 Business #: 913-486-3591 Hotline/Crisis: 91-486-3591
  • Sexual Assault/Domestic Violence Center 1 East 9th Hutchinson KS 67501 Business #: 316-665-3630 Hotline/Crisis: 316-663-2522
  • Hope Unlimited P.O. Box 12 Ida KS 66740 Business #: 316-365-7566 Hotline/Crisis: 316-365-3144
  • Rebecca Vinson Center P.O. Box 1514 Kansas City KS 66117 Business #: 913-321-1566 Hotline/Crisis: 913-321-0951
  • Douglas County Rape Victims Support Service 1419 Massachusetts St. Lawrence KS 66044 Business #: 913-843-8985 Hotline/Crisis: 913-841-2345
  • Women’s Transitional Care Service P.O. Box 633 Lawrence KS 66044 Business #: 913-841-6887 Hotline/Crisis: 913-841-6887
  • Alliance Against Family Violence P.O. Box 465 Leavenworth KS 66048 Business #: 913-682-1752 Hotline/Crisis: 913-682-9131
  • Liberal Area Rape & Domestic Violence Services P.O. Box 1707 Liberal KS 78901 Hotline/Crisis: 316-624-8818
  • The Crisis Center, Inc. P.O. Box 1526 Manhattan KS 66502 Business #: 913-539-2785 Hotline/Crisis: 913-539-2785 Toll Free #: (913)762-2333
  • Mcpherson County Council on Violence Against Persons P.O. Box 406 McPherson KS 67460 Business #: 316-241-3510 Hotline/Crisis: 316-241-6615
  • Multi-County Domestic Violence Program, Inc. Rt. 1 Box 199 Morrill KS 66515 Business #: 913-459-2859
  • Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault Assoc. Box 942 Newton KS 67114 Business #: 316-284-6920 Toll Free #: (800)487-0510
  • SAFEHOME,Inc. P.O. Box 4469 Overland Park KS 66204 Business #: 913-432-9300 Hotline/Crisis: 913-262-2869
  • SAFEHOUSE, Inc. 101 E. Fourth, Suite 214 Pittsburg KS 66762 Business #: 316-231-8251 Hotline/Crisis: 316-231-8692 Toll Free #: (800)333-2292
  • Domestic Violence Assoc. of Central Kansas P.O. Box 1854 Salina KS 67402 Business #: 785-827-5862 Hotline/Crisis: 785-827-5862 Toll Free #: (800) 874-1499
  • Scott County Police Dept. 301 Court Scott City KS 67871 Hotline/Crisis: 316-872-2133
  • Battered Women Task Force P.O. Box 1883 Topeka KS 66601 Business #: 913-354-7927 Hotline/Crisis: 913-233-1730
  • Wichita Area Sexual Assault Center 215 N. St. Francis, Suite 1 Wichita KS 67202 Business #: 316-263-0185 Hotline/Crisis: 316-263-3002
  • YWCA Women’s Crisis Center/Safehouse P.O. Box 1740 Wichita KS 67201 Business #: 316-263-2313 Hotline/Crisis: 316-267-SAFE
  • Cowley County Safe Homes, Inc. P.O. Box 181 Winfield KS 67156 Business #: 316-221-7300 Hotline/Crisis: 316-221-4357 Toll Free #: 316-333-1816




  • Iowa Coalition Against Domestic Violence Lucas Bldg. First Floor Des Moines IA 50319 (515)281-7284
  • Domestic Abuse Services of Dallas County, Inc. P.O. Box 192 Adel IA 50003 Business #: 515-993-4095 Hotline/Crisis: (800)400-4884 Toll Free #: (800)400-4884 MLS Varies BYF R
  • Assault Care Center Extending Shelter and Support P.O. Box 1965 Ames IA 50010 Business #: 515-232-5418 Hotline/Crisis: 515-232-2303 Toll Free #: (800)203-3488 MLS Varies BYF N
  • Family Crisis Support Network P.O. Box 11 Atlantic IA 50022 Business #: 712-243-6615 Hotline/Crisis: 712-243-5123 Toll Free #: (800)696-5123 MLS Varies BYF Y
  • YWCA Shelter & Sexual Assault Center 2410 Mt. Pleasant Burlington IA 52601 Business #: 319-752-0606 Hotline/Crisis: 319-752-4475 MLS 21 days BYF R
  • Domestic Abuse Prevention Center, Inc. P.O. Box 451 Carroll IA 51401 Business #: 712-792-6722 Toll Free #: (800)383-9744 MLS 7 days BYF R
  • YWCA Domestic Violence Program & Shelter 318 5th Street, S. E. Cedar Rapids IA 52401 Business #: 319-364-1458 Hotline/Crisis: 319-363-2093 MLS 3 months BYF R
  • Council Against Domestic Abuse P.O. Box 963 Cherokee IA 51012 Business #: 712-225-5003 Hotline/Crisis: (800)225-5003 Toll Free #: (800)225-7233 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Waubonsic Mental Health Center Box 457 Clarinda IA 51632 Business #: 712-542-2388 Hotline/Crisis: 712-542-2388 Toll Free #: (800)432-1143 BYF Y
  • Gateway YWCA: Women’s Resource Center 317 7th Avenue South Clinton IA 52732 Business #: 319-242-2118 Hotline/Crisis: 319-243-7867 MLS 30 days BYF N
  • Catholic Social Service/Domestic Violence Program 315 West Pierce St. Council Bluffs IA 51503 Business #: 712-328-3086 Hotline/Crisis: 712-328-0266 MLS 3 weeks BYF Y
  • S.W. Iowa Family Violence Center P.O. Box 451 Creston IA 50801 Business #: 515-782-6632 Hotline/Crisis: (800)842-0333
  • Domestic Violence Advocacy Program 115 West 6th Street Davenport IA 52803 Business #: 319-323-1852 Hotline/Crisis: 319-326-9191 Toll Free #: (309)797-1777 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Services for Abused Women and Their Children P.O. Box 372 Decorah IA 52101 Business #: 319-382-2989 Toll Free #: (800)383-2988 MLS 3 days BYF Y
  • Family Violence Center 1111 University Avenue Des Moines IA 50314 Business #: 515-243-6147 Hotline/Crisis: 515-243-6147 MLS Varies BYF R
  • YWCA Battered Women Program 35 North Booth Street Dubuque IA 52001 Business #: 319-556-3371 Hotline/Crisis: 319-588-4016 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Mid-Iowa Stepping Stones Box 122 Eldora IA 50627 Business #: 515-858-2618 Hotline/Crisis: 515-858-2618 MLS 7 days BYF Y
  • Domestic/Sexual Assault Outreach Center P.O. 173 Fort Dodge IA 50501 Business #: 515-955-2273 Hotline/Crisis: 515-573-8000 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Domestic Violence Intervention Program P.O. Box 3170 Iowa City IA 52244 Business #: 319-354-7840 Hotline/Crisis: 319-351-1043 Toll Free #: (800)373-1043 MLS 4 months BYF R
  • Greene County Domestic Abuse Council P.O. Box 422 Jefferson IA 50129 Business #: 515-386-4056 Hotline/Crisis: 386-4056 BYF R
  • Tri-State Coalition Against Family Violence P.O. Box 494 Keokuk IA 52632 Business #: 319-524-4445 Hotline/Crisis: 515-524-4445 MLS 21 days BYF Y
  • Stepping Stones Domestic Abuse Program P.O. Box 76 Malvern IA 51551 Toll Free #: (800)468-7333 MLS 30 days BYF Y
  • Domestic Violence Alternatives/Sexual Assault Ctr. P.O. Box 1507 Marshalltown IA 50158 Business #: 515-752-3245 Hotline/Crisis: 515-753-3513 Toll Free #: (800)779-3512 MLS Varies BYF N
  • Crisis Intervention Service P.O. Box 656 Mason City IA 50402 Business #: 515-424-9071 Hotline/Crisis: 515-424-9133 MLS 45 days BYF R
  • Domestic Abuse/Sexual Assault Advocacy Programs 119 Sycamore St., Suite 200 Muscatine IA 52761 Business #: 319-263-8080 Hotline/Crisis: 319-263-8080 MLS 1 month
  • Crisis Center and Womens Shelter P.O. Box 446 Ottumwa IA 52501 Business #: 515-683-3122 Hotline/Crisis: 515-683-3122 Toll Free #: (800)464-8340 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Turning Point P.O. Box 302 Pella IA 50219 Business #: 515-628-4901 Toll Free #: (800)433-7233 BYF R
  • Domestic Violence Aid Center, Inc. 32 Third Street N. E. Sioux Center IA 51250 Business #; 712-722-4404 Hotline/Crisis: 712-737-3307 Toll Free #: (800)382-5603 MLS 3 days BYF Y
  • Council on Sexual Assault & Domestic Violence P.O. Box 1565 Sioux City IA 51102 Business #: 712-277-0131 Hotline/Crisis: 712-258-7233 Toll Free #: (800)982-7233 MLS 30 days
  • Council for the Prevention of Domestic Violence P.O. Box 462 Spirit Lake IA 51360 Business #: 712-336-0701 Hotline/Crisis: 712-336-0701 MLS 30 days BYF R
  • Crisis Services 3830 W. 9th St. Waterloo IA 50702 Business #: 319-233-8484 Hotline/Crisis: 319-233-8484 MLS 30+ days BYF R
  • Cedar Valley Friends of the Family P.O. Box 148 Waverly IA 50677 Business #: 319-352-1108 Hotline/Crisis: 319-352-0037 Toll Free #: (800)410-SAFE MLS 3 days

Indiana (Part 1)


I will work on getting the actual addresses and phone numbers from these links for a part 2



 Adams Wells Crisis Center (Decatur)  http://awcc.embarqspace.com

 The Beaman Home (Warsaw)  www.thebeamanhome.org

 *The Caring Place (Valparaiso)  www.thecaringplacenwi.org

 iFiT, A program of Family Services of Elkhart county, Inc. (Elkhart) – www.ifitelkhart.org

 *  Haven House, Inc (Hammond) – 219-931-2090

 Heminger House, Plymouth – 574-936-7233

 *  North Central Indiana Rural Crisis Center, Inc (Rensselaer) – 219-866-8825

 Rainbow Shelter, Gary Commission for Women (Gary) – 219-886-1600

 *  St. Jude House (Crown Point)  www.stjudehouse.org

 *  The Stepping Stone Shelter for Women (Michigan City) – 219-879-4615

 YWCA of Northeast Indiana – Domestic Violence Services (Ft.Wayne)http://www.ywca.org

YWCA of North Central Indiana (South Bend)  www.ywcasjc.org


 A Better Way Services, Inc. (Muncie)  www.abetterwaymuncie.org

Alternatives, Inc. (Anderson)  www.alternativesdv.org

 Desert Rose (Martinsville)  www.desertrose.cc

 Family Crisis Shelter,Inc.(Crawfordsville)  www.familycrisisshelter.org

 The Family Service Assn. of Howard County, Inc. (Kokomo)

 Hands of Hope (Marion) – 800-434-8973

 The Julian Center (Indianapolis)  www.juliancenter.org

 Salvation Army (Indianapolis)  www.indysocialservices.org 

 Sheltering Wings Center For Women(Danville)  www.shelteringwings.org

 WINGS(Quest for Excellence)(Indianapolis) www.q4e.org/

 YWCA Domestic Violence Intervention and Prevention Program (Lafayette)
888-345-1118 (toll-free)    or   765-423-1118 (local)


*Albion Fellows Bacon Center,Inc.(Evansville)  www.albionfellowsbacon.org

 The Center for Women and Families  (Sellersburg)  www.thecenteronline.org

 Council On Domestic Abuse (CODA) (Terre Haute)  www.codaterrehaute.org

 Hoosier Hills PACT (Salem) – 888-883-1959

 Middle Way House, Inc. (Bloomington)  www.middlewayhouse.org

 New Directions of Decatur County (Greensburg) – 812-662-8822

 Safe Passage, Inc. (Batesville)  www.safepassageinc.org  

 Turning Point-Columbus Regional Shelter For Victims Of Domestic Violence (Columbus)www.turningpointdv.org

 *YWCA Domestic Violence Shelter (Evansville)  www.ywcaevansville.org 







The State of Illinois Domestic Violence Help Line:

  • 1 (877) TO END DV
  • 1 (877) 863-6338


Hamdard Center for Health & Human Services
Addison, lL 60101
Hotline: (630) 860-9122
Toll Free Hotline: (866) 305-3933
E-Mail: admin@hamdardcenter.org
Web Site: hamdardcenter.org


Mercer County Family Crisis Center
Aledo, lL 61231
Hotline: (309) 582-7233


Oasis Women’s Center
Alton, IL 62002
Hotline: (618) 465-1978
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 244-1978
E-Mail: oasiswc@cbnstl.com


Mutual Ground, Inc.
Aurora, lL 60506
Hotline: (630) 897-0080
E-Mail: mutualground@ameritech.net
Web Site: mutualgroundinc.com


Violence Prevention Center of Southwestern Illinois
Belleville, IL 62222-0831
Hotline: (618) 235-0892
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 924-0096
E-Mail: information@vpcswi.org
Web Site: vpcswi.org


Mid Central Community Action, Inc.
Bloomington, IL 61701
Hotline: (309) 827-7070
Web Site: mccainc.org


Cairo Women’s Shelter, Inc.
Cairo, IL 62914
Hotline: (61 8) 734-4357
E-Mail: cwsi@midwest.net


Fulton-Mason Crisis Service
Canton, IL 61520
Hotline: (309) 647-8311
E-Mail: madedfmcs@yahoo.com


The Women’s Center, Inc.
Carbondale, IL 62901
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 334-2094
Web Site: thewomensctr.org


People Against Violent Environments (PAVE)
Centralia, IL 62801
Hotline: (61 8) 533-7233
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 924-8444
TTY Hotline: (61 8) 533-9003
E-Mail: pave@charter.net


HOPE of East Central Illinois (Charleston)
Charleston, IL 61920
Toll Free Hotline: (888) 345-3990
Web Site: hope-eci.org


Apna Ghar (Our Home), Inc.
Chicago, IL 60640
Hotline: (773) 334-4663
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 717-0757
E-Mail: info@apnaghar.org
Web Site: apnaghar.org

Between Friends
Chicago. IL 60645
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 603-4357
Web Site: http://www.betweenfriendschicago.org/

Chicago Abused Women Coalition
Chicago, IL 60651
Hotline: (773) 278-4566
TTY Hotline: (773) 278-4114
E-Mail: cawcadmin@mindspring.com
Web Site: cawc.org

Domestic Violence Legal Clinic
Chicago, IL 60607

Family Rescue, Inc.
Chicago, IL 60617
Hotline: (773) 375-8400
E-Mail: administration@familyrescueinc.org
Web Site: familyrescueinc.org

Healthcare Alternative Systems, Inc.
Chicago, IL 60647
Hotline: (773) 745-7107
Web Site: hascares.org

Howard Area Community Center
Chicago, IL 60626
Web Site: howardarea.org

Howard Brown Health Center
Chicago, IL 60613
Web Site: howardbrown.org

Jane Addams Hull House Association
Chicago. IL 60607
TTY Hotline: (773) 561-6119
Web Site: hullhouse.org

Legal Assistance Foundation of Metropolitan Chicago
Chicago, IL 60604
Hotline: (800) 824-4050
Web Site: lafchicago.org

Lester and Rosalie Anixter Center
Chicago. IL 60626-062
TTY Hotline: (773) 248-9174
E-Mail: askchs@anixter.org
Web Site: anixter.org

Metropolitan Family Services
Chicago, IL 60602
Web Site: metrofamily.org

Mujeres Latinas en Accion
Chicago, IL 60608
Hotline: (312) 738-5358
TTY Hotline: (312) 226-3350
E-Mail: mujeresmail@mujereslat.org
Web Site: mujereslatinasenaccion.org

Neopolitan Lighthouse
Chicago, IL 606240709
Hotline: (773) 722-0005
E-Mail: neopolitan@ameritech.net
Web Site: neopolitanlighthouse.org

New Hope Community Service Center
Chicago, IL 60652
Web Site: nhcsc.org

Polish American Association
Chicago, IL 60641
E-Mail: paa@polish.org
Web Site: polish.org

Rainbow House
Chicago, IL 60604
Hotline: (773) 762-6611
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 913-0065
TTY Hotline: (773) 762-6802
E-Mail: email@rainbow-house.org
Web Site: rainbow-house.org

Wellspring Center for Hope
Chicago, IL 60181
Web Site: wellspringcenterforhope.org

YWCA of Metropolitan Chicago
Chicago, IL 60601
Toll Free Hotline: (888) 293-2080
Web Site: ywcachicago.org


Your Family Resource Connection (YFRC)
Danville, IL 61832-4723
Hotline: (217) 443-5566
E-Mail: admin.yfrc@insightbb.com
Web Site: none


Dove, Inc.
Decatur, IL 62521
Hotline: (217) 423-2238
Web Site: doveinc.org


Safe Passage, Inc.
DeKalb, IL 60115
Hotline: (815) 756-5228
E-Mail: dekalb@safepassagedv.org


Life Span
Des Plaines, IL 60017
Hotline: (847) 824-4454
TTY Hotline: (847) 824-01 89
E-Mail: life-span@life-span.org
Web Site: life-span.org


Community Crisis Center
Elgin, IL 60120
E-Mail: cccpeace@crisiscenter.org
Web Site: crisiscenter.org


YWCA Evanston/North Shore
Evanston, lL 60201
Hotline: (847) 864-8780
Toll Free Hotline: (877) 718-1868


VOICES Domestic Violence Program
Freeport, lL 61032
Hotline: (815) 235-1641
Toll Free Hotline: (877) 994-7233
E-Mail: voices@voicesdv.org


Riverview Center
Galena, IL 61036
Hotline: (815) 777-3680 Jo Davies County
Hotline:  (815) 244-1320 Carroll County
E-Mail: carrie@riverviewcenter.org
Web Site: www.riverviewcenter.org


Safe Harbor Family Crisis Center
Galesburg, IL 61401
Hotline: (309) 343-7233
E-Mail: safeharb@galesburg.net


Phoenix Crisis Center
Granite City, IL 62040
Hotline: (618) 451-1008
Toll Free Hotline: (866) 576-6649


Anna Bixby Women’s Center
Harrisburg, IL 62946
Hotline: (618) 252-8389
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 421 -8456
TTY Hotline: (618) 252-8389
E-Mail: abixby@accessus.net


South Suburban Family Shelter, Inc.
Homewood, IL 60430-0937
Hotline: (708) 335-3028
Toll Free Hotline: (877) 335-3020
E-Mail: info@ssfsi.org
Web Site: http://www.ssfsi.org


Crisis Center Foundation
Jacksonville, IL 62650
Hotline: (217) 243-4357
Toll Free Hotline: (877) 243-5357


Guardian Angel Community Services
Joliet, IL 60435
Hotline: (815) 729-1228
Web Site: guardianangelhome.org


Kankakee County Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Kankakee, lL 60901-1824
Hotline: (815) 932-5800
E-Mail: harbor@harborhousedv.org


The Pillars Community Services
La Grange Park, IL 60526

Hotline: (708) 698-5500 ext 203
TTY Hotline: (708) 698-5090
E-Mail: cmh@pillarscommunity.org
Web Site: pillarscommunity.org


Western Illinois Regional Council–Community Action Agency
Macomb, IL 61455
Hotline: (309) 837-5555
E-Mail: victimservices@wirpc.org
Web Site: wirpc.org


Family Resources, Inc.
Moline, IL 61265
Hotline: (309) 797-1777
TTY Hotline: (309) 793-1443


Riverview Center
Galena, IL 61036
Hotline: (815) 777-3680 Jo Davies County
Hotline:  (815) 244-1320 Carroll County
E-Mail: carrie@riverviewcenter.org
Web Site: www.riverviewcenter.org


Sarah’s Inn
Oak Park, IL 60304
Hotline: (708) 286-4225
TTY Hotline: (708) 386-3687
E-Mail: sarahsinn@sarahsinn.org
Web Site: sarahsinn.org


Stopping Women Abuse Now (SWAN)
Olney, lL 62450
Hotline: (618) 392-3556
Toll Free Hotline: (888) 715-6260
E-Mail: swanservices@otbnet.com
Web Site: swanservices.org


The Center for Prevention of Abuse
Peoria, lL 61614
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 559-7233
Web Site: centerforpreventionofabuse.org


Freedom House
Princeton, IL 61356
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 474-6031


Quincy, IL 62301
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 369-2287
E-Mail: info@quanada.org
Web Site: quanada.org


H.O.P.E. of Rochelle
Rochelle, IL 61068
Hotline: (815) 562-8890
E-Mail: hopeOmail@aol.com


Rockford, IL 61102
Hotline: (815) 962-6102
Web Site: phasewave.net


Sojourn Shelter & Services, Inc.
Springfield, IL 62704
Hotline: (866) 435-7438
E-Mail: sojcenter@aol.com
Web Site: sojournshelter.org


YWCA of the Sauk Valley
Sterling, IL 61081-3603
Hotline: (815) 626-7277


Streator, IL 61364
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 892-3375
E-Mail: advsas@crtelco.com


Crisis Center for South Suburbia
Tinley Park, IL 60477
Hotline: (708) 429-7233
TTY Hotline: (708) 429-7284
Web Site: crisisctr.org


BETH’S Place
Tuscola, IL 61953
Hotline: (217) 253-2555
Toll Free Hotline: (877) 394-8284
E-Mail: beths_place_1999@yahoo.com


The Center for Women in Transition (A Woman’s Place)
Urbana, IL 61802
Hotline: (217) 384-4390
Toll Free Hotline:  (888) 384-4390
E-Mail: shelter@cwt-cu.org
Web Site: www.cwt-cu.org


Family Shelter Service
Wheaton, IL 60187
Hotline: (630) 469-5650
TTY Hotline: (630) 221-8058
E-Mail: mail@familyshelterservice.net
Web Site: familyshelterservice.org


Turning Point, Inc.
Woodstock, IL 60098
Toll Free Hotline: (800) 892-8900
E-Mail: tpofficemanager@yahoo.com
Web Site: mchenrycountyturningpoint.org


A Safe PlacelLake County Crisis Center
Zion, IL 60099
Hotline: (800) 6007233
E-Mail: info@asafeplaceforhelp.org
Web Site: asafeplaceforhelp.org

What Happens In Court To Get The Restraining Order

What happens in court?

You will appear before a judge so you can tell him/her what happened. You will usually appear before a judge without the abuser being present.

When you return to court on the date indicated in your order, the abuser has a right to be present. Both you and the abuser will have the opportunity to tell the judge what happened between you. You are allowed to bring a lawyer to this hearing, but it is purely your choice. At the end of this hearing, the judge will determine if you should receive a final order, for how long, and under what conditions.

If the abuser does not appear at the hearing, the judge will either continue the temporary order in effect until the abuser can be brought into court, or will enter a final order if there is proof that the abuser was served with the T.R.O./Notice to Appear. The sheriff or police should have proof of service. You can not be asked or told to serve papers on the abuser. If you don’t appear, and have not made arrangements with the court to reschedule the case, someone from the court will attempt to contact you by phone at home or at work, or they may send you a certified letter if you have no phone. The courts take domestic violence very seriously, and will be worried about your safety if you do not call. If they cannot find you, your restraining order may be dismissed and you will no longer have the protection granted in the order.

What happens after court?

The court will give you a copy of the order. Be sure to ask someone before you leave the court if there is anything you don’t understand. Carry it with you at all times. If the abuser does not obey the order, call the police. The police have to arrest an abuser who violates any part of the order that protects you from threats or violence.

You have the right to police protection. If you carry your order with you at all times, it will be easier for the police to understand your current situation. If you lose your order, or it gets destroyed, return to the court and obtain another copy.

What can you do if the abuser violates the order?

If the abuser violates any of the other parts of the order, call the police. For some violations (having contact with you or coming to the house, for example) or if the abuser violated the order by committing a crime, (for example, stalking you, harassing you or trespassing) the local police must sign a criminal complaint for contempt of the court order.

Can I file criminal charges?

You can file criminal charges against the abuser for acts of domestic violence, because they are all crimes. Criminal charges can only be filed at your local police department. For very serious crimes, a prosecutor may take your case to state criminal court. You do not have to file criminal charges, but the law does allow you to file them if you choose, even if you also get a restraining order. In most states you have at least a year after any incident to file criminal charges. The police can also file charges on their own and must do so when you show signs of injury or if a weapon was used. If the abuser is found guilty of the criminal charges, the court can impose fines, probation, or even jail as punishment.

What Does A Restraining Order DO


If you are a victim of domestic violence, a judge can sign an Order of Protection that requires the abuser to obey the law. The order is very specific in as far as what the abuser can and can’t do.


  • The abuser can be ordered not to have any contact with you, in person or by phone, at home, work, or almost anywhere you ask the court to put in the order. The order against contact may also protect other people in your family. 
  • The court can order the abuser to leave the house or apartment that you and the abuser share; even if it is in the abuser’s name. 
  • Except in unusual situations, the court will grant you custody of your minor children. In some states the court can also order the abuser to pay child support and support for you. The abuser may also be granted visitation with the child/children under certain conditions. If the children are in danger of abuse, you should let the judge know why you think so. 
  • In some states the court may also order the abuser to pay for costs that resulted from the abuse, for example; household bills that are due right away, medical/dental treatment, moving expenses, loss of earnings. The judge can also make the abuser pay your attorney’s fees, and can make the abuser pay damages to you or other people that helped you or got hurt by the abuser. 
  • The judge may order the abuser to receive professional domestic violence counseling, or tell the abuser to get evaluated, or to go to AA or NA. You can agree to go to counseling if you want to (or to a free program like AA, AlAnon, or a domestic violence program), but the judge should only make it an order for the abuser. 
  • The judge can order the police to escort the abuser to remove personal items from the residence, or shared place of business, so that you are protected by the police during any necessary contact. 
  • The judge has the power under the law to order anything else that will help to protect you, as long as you agree to it. 

Restraining Orders

What is a restraining order?

A Restraining Order is a court order intended to protect you from further harm from someone who has hurt you; to keep the abuser away from you, or to stop harassing you, or keep the abuser from the scene of the violence, which may include your home, place of work, or apartment. It is a civil order and it does not give the abuser a criminal record.


A victim of domestic violence can obtain a Restraining Order. A victim of domestic abuse means a person protected by the law and shall include any person who has been subjected to domestic abuse by a spouse, or any other person who is a present or former household member and where the victim is 18 years of age or older or who is an emancipated minor. A victim, of any age, who has been subjected to domestic violence by a person who she/he says will be the father/mother of the child when the pregnancy is carried to term is also covered by this law. A victim, of any age, also includes any person who has been subjected to domestic violence by a person with whom the victim has had a dating relationship.

Domestic violence means the occurrence of one or more of the following acts committed against a victim by an adult or an emancipated minor: