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This is VERY hard for me to do…..but hopefully by doing this I can show that it is ok to share your story with others and to also show that you don’t need to feel like you are the only one out there cause you are not the only one fighting this battle.

I have had a very interesting life. I was abused at birth. The earliest that I remember is that I was backhanded out of my high chair for spilling milk out of my sippy cup. The others were nightmares but were confirmed after I grew up. First instance…I am terrified of thunderstorms because I was at my grandmother (on my birth mothers side) house and she decided she didn’t want me there anymore so she packed my little suitcase and threw me and my suitcase outside in the middle of a thunderstorm. The next one is that my brother and I were put on the bottom bunk of our bunk bed and she poured gas all around us and set the bed on fire. Thank goodness our Uncle happened by to check up on us so he was able to put the fire out before anything happened to us. Then there was an instance where she left my brother and I in a trailer, in the dead of winter, I was little bitty and my brother was still a baby, with no food water, heat or anything, while she went off to California with her boyfriend to do drugs. The neighbors across the street noticed that there wasn’t any movement in or out of the house for about a week and came by and noticed the condition of my brother and I and called the doctor. The doctor came…..and we both had pneumonia….diaper rash, malnourished, dehydrated, and he said if we were left alone for a matter of about 4 more hours we would have died.  Where was my birth father in all of this you ask. Well he was in the Army. And he would go a wall all the time to come back and take care of us…..but they would find him and bring him back. My grandmother on my birth fathers side tried to take care of us…..but she had children of her own and was living in a small trailer and couldn’t so the state stepped in and took us away. We ended up in foster care.  I was abused by foster parents.  I was put in a bed with I don’t know how many other children….all I know is that I was at the very EDGE of the bed. I still sleep like that to this day. No matter how much room I have on the bed, I always end up at the very edge…and never fall off. I was about 3 and was made to go to the HUGE strawberry patch and pick strawberries and milk the cows. From dawn till dusk. My foster parents had a son. I admired him because he worked with model molding. So one day I went upstairs to see what he was doing and he grabbed me by the hair and kicked me down the stairs. Thank God nothing was broke. My brother and I got adopted and things happened but for the sake of family peace I shall not mention what happened then. I got married when I was 16 and had 4 wonderful children. He could be controlling at times, couldn’t have friends, but to be  honest with you….I didn’t have time to have friends with taking care of 4 boys. Then after 13 yrs of marriage we just drifted apart and got divorced. I had a boyfriend before my next husband who was EXTREMELY controlling and ABUSIVE. I could not go anywhere without him….and had to go everywhere with him. He would kick me, punch me, slap me etc. He had me staying in an outdoor kitchen that was infested with mice and roaches and I had to wake up at 4 in the morning to go feed the goats and horses so he could sleep in. If I didn’t I would get it. Finally his family found out about me staying back there and got mad. So he brought me out the country to a friend of his trailer (in the middle of summer) no air conditioning no electricity. I had to stay there. No way to contact anyone. I almost died of heat stroke so he moved me to a little motel out in the country. There he continually beat me and punched me. One day he beat me so bad that i started throwing up blood. So I got on the phone and called a friend in Lafayette and told him what was going on and he came and got me and brought me to an abuse shelter. He helped me pack all my clothes and helped me get in the truck. As we were pulling out of the driveway I called the shelter and told them I was on the way and the vehicle i was in and that my friend was with me. Unfortunately, as we were pulling out my boyfriend was pulling in. So needless to say, it was a race by both to Lafayette to get to the shelter….but we won and made it in seconds before he got there. He tried to get in but the shelter was locked by gates and the cops came and picked him up so my friend was safe and I was safe.

After several months there, I moved to Mississippi and got married again, that is where all my REAL trouble started. Let me first say we lived with his mom and her  house was deplorable. He drank some before we got married but it wasn’t bad. But once I signed the piece of paper all hell broke loose. It is like it gave him ownership of me or something. He was controlling, didn’t want me to work. IF i went somewhere without him (which was few and far between) I had to bring receipts back. Or he was calling every 2 minutes to see where I was. And heaven forbid if I said or bought something that he didn’t like….I got beat. He drank like a fish…..10 or more 64 oz bottles of beer a day. Did cocaine, meth, marijuana, and lord only knows what else. I was not allowed to speak without him telling me that I could. When he was home I had to stay in the bedroom with him. He was lazy. If it was on the weekend, I was in the bedroom all the time.  It got to where I slept the majority of the time. Then I couldn’t really do that because I was afraid of what he was going to do while I was sleeping. I was also stabbed on a few occasions. He loved to go fishing…so we would go fishing and he would get so drunk that he would fall into the pond and then blame it on me and then beat me. One time it was so bad that I had blood running down my legs. I had to go to the ER. The doctor asked what happened, I told him it was just a bad “time of the month” but he knew better and gave me something for the pain and put me on bed rest. I had to hide the medicine from my husband which was farely easy because he stayed to drunk to remember where they were. It got to where he turned my whole family against me and I had to turn to strangers to be able to leave. One night at 1 am I packed a couple of trash bags (while he was work) and ran through the house and jumped in the car and drove as far away as I could. Once he found out I was gone….and wasn’t coming back….he kept calling my phone and threatening me. He was stupid enough to leave me messages on my voice mail threatening to kill me, plus his mom threatened to kill me AND I still had all the bruises and fresh wounds when I went to get the restraining order. The judge in Minnesota was shocked to say the least and VERY MAD! He told me that if my ex ever stepped foot in Minnesota he would regret it. But for now all he could do was issue a restraining order on him and his family. After I left and moved WAY up north (Minnesota) I have lived in fear for most of my life after that…..not until just recently have I decided that enough is enough and it is time for me to take my life back.

It is a one day at a time process….but I am getting better. I have started seeing a psychiatrist to help me deal with my flashbacks, because I have come to the conclusion that I can’t do it on my own any more.

You never get over being abused you will always remember it but you can’t let it ruin your life. I am finding my Brighter Tomorrow, let’s find your’s.

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Delaware

CITY TEAM MINISTRIES
(SINGLE ADULT MEN ONLY)

Address 634 Sproul Street
Chester, PA 19013
Phone 610-872-6865
Contact Person Peter Niglio
Program Type Overnight facility-based shelter for men. Shelter guests
arrive in the evening and must exit the following morning.
Capacity is 36 beds.
Eligibility Must be 18 years of age and able bodied – (must be able to
climb the steps to the second floor shelter). Shelter guests
will not be permitted to enter the facility if they are under the
influence of alcohol and/or drugs. Identification is also
needed.
Second Chance Program There is no charge for the first 5 nights of shelter. After the
5
th night, shelter guests must pay $5.00 each night.
Breakfast is available for these guests. In addition, work
may be available through the “He is Pleased Program” and
through Labor Ready.
Hours of Operation The shelter doors open at 7:45 PM each evening and close
at 8:10 PM.
To Refer…
Monday – Friday
Evenings & Weekends
All new shelter guests must be at the rear door of City Team
at 7:45 PM.
From 8:00 AM to 4:45 PM – call 610-872-6865
Call 610-872-6865 Ext. 111
Meals Breakfast: Sundays at 8 AM
Lunch: Saturdays at 11:30 AM
Dinner: Monday through Saturday – 4:45 PM
Sunday – 4:45 PM
Other Services City Team offers a “spiritually-based” substance abuse recovery program and food and clothing assistance

CONNECT-BY-NIGHT (CBN)
(Single adult men & women)

 

Address 7200 Chestnut Street, REAR Entrance
Upper Darby, PA 19082
Phone 267-507-3970
Contact Person Carl Parker @ 267-507-3932
Program Type Overnight church-based, mobile emergency shelter in the eastern area of the
County. Different facilities host the shelter program each month. This shelter
program is not wheelchair accessible. Participants sleep on mats on the floor and
most sites have stairs. Capacity is 50 beds.
Eligibility Must be 18 years of age and be a Delaware County resident. Philadelphia
residents are referred to Philadelphia’s Office of Emergency Shelter Services @
311 Juniper Street for shelter determination.
Other Criteria  Participants must be ambulatory and be able to care for their basic needs
without assistance from shelter staff.
 Participants will not be accepted if they have current disciplinary actions against
them with this program.
Hospital discharge paperwork should accompany the referral form if referrals
are made during business hours (7:00 AM to 3:00 PM).
Hours of
Operation
Seven days a week – CBN transports guests from 7200 Chestnut Street’s rear
entrance every evening beginning 9:00 PM. Guests must see a staff person to
register for the evening by 8:00 PM. Guests are transported to the host facility and
then back to the pick up area the following morning.
To Refer…
Monday – Friday
Evenings &
Weekends
All guests must sign in and register with a staff person by 8:00 PM to board the van.
All “referred” shelter guests should have a written referral form in-hand to board the
van. Guests will still be accepted even if they do not have a written referral,
although a referral form will provide very useful information to the shelter staff.
Shelter staff may try to contact you on the next business day to verify the guest’s
situation.
From 7:00 AM to 3:00 PM, call 267-507-3970
From 3:00 PM to 9:00 PM, call 267-507-3940
From 3:00 PM to 9:00 PM, call 267-507-3940
From 9 PM to 2 AM, call Shelter Staff at 215-284-0785. Shelter staff will inform you
if client can enter shelter that evening. Due to several factors, this shelter cannot
accept guests between 2:00 AM and 7:00 AM.
Meals Meals are not available at the shelter although some shelter hosts may provide a
light snack. Shelter staff will refer to community meal programs or other resources.
Other Services The following support services are available Monday through Friday at CONNECT:
Case management, outreach, peer support, vocational, transitional housing, life
skills education, mailing address, and access to behavioral health care treatment.

 

LIFE CENTER OF EASTERN DELAWARE COUNTY
(Single adult men & women)

Address 6310 Market Street
Upper Darby, PA 19082
Phone 610-734-5770
Contact Person James L. Shelton, Director
Program Type 50 bed facility-based shelter. Length of stay is up to six (6) months.
Eligibility Delaware County resident over age 18.
Hours of Operation Open seven days each week with 24-hour staffing.
To Refer…..
Monday – Friday
Evenings & Weekends
For intake, refer clients to Fran Montague. All individuals must
complete an intake screening. If there are no beds available, the
client will be placed on the waiting list. Waiting list clients should
contact the Life Center every two to three days to check on their
status. See page 3 for Vulnerable Adults.
From 10:00 AM to 2:00 PM, intake screenings are conducted on a
walk-in basis.
Call 610-874-8451 – answering service will assist.
Meals Breakfast & Lunch – Guests are responsible for preparing their own
meals.
Dinner – The Community Outreach Project coordinates a meal
program held every evening at 7:00 PM at the Life Center.
Other Services Case management, life skills, NA/AA meetings,
vocational/employment referrals, behavioral healthcare screenings
& referrals and access to healthcare. Through referral, showers are
available on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays 10:00 AM – 2:00
PM.
*** In the event that a CODE BLUE is called in the City of Philadelphia, the Life Center will make 10 cots
available as “overflow” beds. Call the Life Center to confirm.***

SALVATION ARMY WARMING CENTER
(Single adult men & women)

 

Address 151 W. 15th Street
Chester, PA 19013
Phone 610-874-0423
Contact Person Head Shelter Monitor
Program Type Salvation Army based, over night shelter.
Capacity 35. – Additional beds are available during severe weather
situations.
Eligibility Delaware County resident over age 18.
Hours of Operation Beginning at 8:00 PM each evening until the following morning.
To Refer…
Meals – Monday Through Friday
Saturday
Sunday
Call 610-874-0423 and/or send client to the Salvation Army by 7:00
PM. A written referral on agency letterhead is required.
Seven days per week.
Breakfast – 8:00 AM
Lunch – 12:00 Noon
Brunch – 11:00 AM
Dinner – 3:00 PM
Other Services Case management, information and referral, life skills education,
counseling, employment readiness, outreach, mailing address,
showers and access to behavioral healthcare treatment and
medical care.

 

Wesley House Community Corp.
(Single adult women only)

Address 701 Madison Street
Chester, PA 19013
Phone 610-872-2611
Contact Person Sheiletta Corporal, Director
Program Type Facility-based shelter with 4 Beds for single females. Length of
stay is up to 6 months.
Eligibility Delaware County resident over age 18.
Hours of Operation Open seven days each week with 24-hour staffing.
To Refer…
Monday through Friday
Evenings & Weekends
All referred individuals must meet with an intake worker at
Community Action Agency.
8:30 AM to 4:30 PM –
Call Ms. Dinah Boykin at 610-874-8451.
Call 610-874-8451 – answering service will assist.
Meals Guests are required to provide their own meals. Referrals to other
sources will be made if necessary.
Other Services Case management, life skills, parenting, budgeting, nutrition,
childcare, GED, housing counseling, vocational/employment
programs and access to behavioral and medical care.

 

 

Connecticut

BHCARECENTER FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SERVICES

Confidential Address
Ansonia, CT 06401
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Calls route to local DVS office; 24hr/7 days
(203) 736-9944 Hotline   24hr/7 days
New Haven County
CENTER FOR WOMEN AND FAMILIES OF EASTERN FAIRFIELD COUNTY, THECENTER FOR WOMEN AND FAMILIES OF EASTERN FAIRFIELD COUNTY, THE – DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SERVICE

753 Fairfield Avenue
Bridgeport, CT 06604
(203) 384-9559 Hotline   24 hr/7days
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Calls route to local DVS office; 24hr/7days
Fairfield County
WOMEN’S CENTER OF GREATER DANBURYWOMEN’S CENTER OF GREATER DANBURY – DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SERVICE

2 West Street
Danbury, CT 06810
(203) 731-5206 Hotline   24 hr/7 days
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Calls route to local DVS office; 24hr/7days
(203) 731-5200 Voice   Administration
Fairfield County
UNITED SERVICES

1007 North Main Street
Dayville, CT 06241
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Statewide Domestic Violence Hotline
(860) 774-8648 Voice   24 hr/7 days; collect calls accepted
Windham County
NETWORK AGAINST DOMESTIC ABUSE OF NORTH CENTRAL CONNECTICUT

139 Hazard Avenue
Bldg. 3-9
Enfield, CT 06082
(860) 763-7430 Voice   Administration
(860) 763-4542 Hotline   Network
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Calls roll over to local DVS office; 24 hour – Statewide
Hartford County
YWCA – GREENWICHYWCA – GREENWICH – DOMESTIC ABUSE SERVICES OF GREENWICH

259 East Putnam Avenue
Greenwich, CT 06830
(203) 622-0003 Hotline   24 hrs/7day
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Calls route to local DVS office; 24hr/7days
Fairfield County
INTERVAL HOUSE

PO Box 340207
Hartford, CT 06134
(860) 527-0550 Hotline   24 hr/7 day hotline
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Calls roll over to local DVS office; 24 hr/7 day statewide
Hartford County
MERIDEN – WALLINGFORD CHRYSALIS

(n/a)
Meriden, CT 06451
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Calls route to local DVS office; 24 hr/7 days
(203) 238-1501 Hotline   24 hr/7 days
New Haven County
NEW HORIZONS

PO Box 1036
Middletown, CT 06457
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Calls route to local DVS office; 24hr/7 days
(860) 347-3044 Hotline
Middlesex County
PRUDENCE CRANDALL CENTER

PO Box 895
New Britain, CT 06050
(860) 225-6357 Hotline
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Calls roll over to local DVS office; 24 hr/7 day statewide
Hartford County
SAFE FUTURES

16 Jay Street
New London, CT 06320
(860) 701-6000 Hotline   Domestic Violence Hotline; 24 hr/7 days
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Statewide Domestic Violence Hotline; 24 hr/ 7 days
(860) 447-0366 Voice
New London County
BHCARECENTER FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SERVICES

Confidential Address
North Haven, CT 06473
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Calls route to local DVS office; 24hr/7 days
(203) 789-8104 Hotline
(203) 773-0192 TTY
New Haven County
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CRISIS CENTERDOMESTIC VIOLENCE CRISIS CENTER – NORWALK SITE

5 Eversley Avenue
Norwalk, CT 06851
(203) 853-0418 Voice
(203) 852-1980 Hotline   24 hr. Hotline (Norwalk)
(888) 774-2900 Voice   24-hr. State Hotline
Fairfield County
WOMEN’S SUPPORT SERVICES

158 Gay Street
Sharon, CT 06069
(860) 364-1900 Hotline   24 hr/7 day
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Statewide DVS Hotline, 24 hr/7 days
Litchfield County
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CRISIS CENTER

777 Summer Street Suite 400
Stamford, CT 06901
(203) 588-9100 Voice   Administration/Stamford
(203) 588-9096 Hotline   24 hr. Hotline (Stamford)
(888) 774-2900 Voice   24-hr. State Hotline
Fairfield County
SUSAN B. ANTHONY PROJECTSUSAN B. ANTHONY PROJECT – DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SERVICE

179 Water Street
Torrington, CT 06790
(860) 482-7133 Hotline   24 hrs/ 7 days
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Statewide DVS Hotline, 24 hr/7 days
Litchfield County
SAFE HAVEN OF GREATER WATERBURYSAFE HAVEN OF GREATER WATERBURY – DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SERVICE

29 Central Avenue 2nd Floor
Waterbury, CT 06702
(203) 575-0036 Hotline
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Calls route to local DVS office; 24hr/7days
(888) 568-8332 Hotline   Spanish
New Haven County
CONNECTICUT COALITION AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (CCADV)

912 Silas Deane Highway
Wethersfield, CT 06109
(800) 281-1481 Voice   Toll free – Connecticut
(860) 282-7899 Voice
Hartford County
UNITED SERVICESUNITED SERVICES – WILLIMANTIC OFFICE

132 Mansfield Avenue
Willimantic, CT 06226
(888) 774-2900 Hotline   Statewide Domestic Violence Hotline; 24/7
(860) 456-9476 Voice   24 hr/7 days; Emergency AND non-emergency calls
Windham County