Control, Verbal Abuse and Violence
Domestic violence is about the control of one human being by another. This control begins with verbal abuse and is similar to mind control. Verbal abuse attacks one’s spirit and sense of self. Verbal abuse attempts to create self doubt. “You don’t know what you’re talking about,” “You don’t have a sense of humor,” “You can’t take a joke,” “You’re too sensitive,” “You’re crazy.”
Verbal abuse so controls ones mind that some women who have left a verbally and sometimes physically abusive relationship twenty or more years ago still find themselves wondering, “Maybe there’s something I could have done…,” or, “Maybe if I’d tried to explain just one more time my relationship would have gotten better.” Very often the people who find themselves the target of controlling behaviors can’t comprehend that anyone would want to control them so they try to be nice. This dosn’t work. You can’t stop a rapist by being extra nice.
Through the eyes of the abuser, even the victim’s own opinions are seen as opposition. Thousands of battered people have said that the hurt of verbal abuse lasted longer than the bruises of physical abuse. Verbal abuse is a kind of violence that creates a deep emotional pain and mental anguish that can be immobilizing.
- Day #3: Learn to Recognize the Signs of Verbal Abuse (theanonymousdiva.wordpress.com)
- This Is What Your Words Did To Me… (theanonymousdiva.wordpress.com)
- What You Say Can Be Abuse (the2bgroupblog.wordpress.com)
- How to Recognize an Abusive Man (adatingdogsblog.com)